I came across this beautiful post recently about fear, and letting go of it.
We all feel fear. Well, I certainly do. Every time I think of something I’m going to do to grow The Happy Eater, one voice comes first with ideas of things I can do, and stories I can tell, and that positive voice is immediately followed by a second voice. Negative, fearful.
You can’t do that! What do you know about that? Why would anyone listen to you?
Fear can make you cling to thoughts that weigh and worry you down.
Fear will keep you still, and stuck, and struggling.
We are so scared of starting over, of being a beginner, so scared of starting fresh.
I wrote a post before about recent changes in my life. I quit my job, started a new one in a completely new industry, and went part time so I can focus on The Happy Eater. That was a scary day! I took a massive pay cut, and now I’m a beginner. And I’m doing something for the first time in a long time that I could just crash and burn at. And that uncertainty? It’s scary!
So we hold tight to old patterns, we defend and we reason and we justify why we are where we are, why we’re still stuck in that job, why we’re still friends with that person, why we’re still mad, why we’re unhappy with our bodies, why we aren’t living the life we thought we would. We pretend and we ignore and we keep on keeping on, engraining and engraving ourselves and our lives with our ways. We keep thinking the same thoughts, acting out the same actions, but somehow expecting that we if we just keep on going, something will change.
But it won’t.
So we have to find a way to quiet that second voice and live our life with excitement and courage, in spite of the fear. And be ready to work hard to make the changes happen and let ourselves grow.
If you want change, you’re going to have to change. You’re going to have to step into the unknown anyways. Let it burn, let the fire of it consume you and cleanse you and clear you out, because seriously, this is where the magic happens.
So let go.
Let the fear go.
Now. Let go now.
Not so easy though, is it? To release fear?
I’ve found that the more times I ignore that little second voice, the smaller it gets. The more I realise that any judgement I fear is a reflection of the person judging me, than of me myself, the more I can release it. The more I remind myself that hard as it is to be a beginner, I’ve come a long way already; the more I remind myself that the people I admire, who seem so ‘together’ and have successful businesses doing what I want to do, all started right here where I am now; the more I just keep on trying, and challenging myself, and moving forward, the more I can release it.
Step around your fears of the unknown, of being alone, of being uncomfortable, of starting over, let go of your worries of not being good enough, of not having enough, of not knowing enough, and set yourself free of the heaviness that weighs you.
Make room for the good to come in.
Remember, your energy and your time are limited, so how are you going to spend them? Reinforcing thoughts, habits, relationships and behaviours that make you feel drained and depressed, or will you shine it out on that which lightens and lifts you?
Know that as you let go of thoughts that burden and worry you, you’re consciously stepping towards who you want to be, how you want to be, how you want to feel in this one life you’ve been gifted.
I get that. All your thoughts and actions are a choice. You have to choose to release the negative. Recognise it, then let it go, and choose to replace it with positive.
I CAN do it! People will listen to me because I’ve been through it, so I know how it feels to be plagued by guilt about eating a whole tub of ice cream, and I’ve come out the other side and am so much happier. I know my experience, and I know what I’ve studied, and I know how to help people.
So pipe down, and make space for my positive voice.
Is fear preventing you from making changes and living in the space where magic happens? What do you need to release?